What kind of adult do you have to be to lie about something a child said? I mean, it’s one thing to lie about your whole life to people but to cross that line and put words into a child mouth, well that just takes the cake.

I used to think I was a bad mommy but these past month’s have made me realize I haven’t done that bad of a job and my kid is actually pretty well adjusted for having me as a Mother LOL. My son loves me and is my number one supporter. He’s always coming up to give me a hug or to just tell me he loves me….did I mention he’s a teenager? Guess I should since that seem’s to be something this woman continually feels the need to remind me of~”Wow, teenage boy’s don’t usually love on their mom’s like that, “Wow, you’re lucky, your son will just come give you a hug, I have to ask my child for one.” Um….okay….and that is my fault how? And I’m suppossed to feel guilty or something about this right? Well I don’t and if that makes me a bitch then let me just shine my golden bitch badge up some before I clip it on for the day. At first I sympathized as a Mom but after the 100th time it just grates on the nerves.

I had no clue that things like that would actually make a grown woman revert to petty grade school jealousy type action. I don’t let my son go anywhere alone with this woman because I am not comfortable with that. If I’m around then it’s okay, other then that no way. My main deciding factor on this was when she told me how she talked about sex with her bestfriends son because he was to shy to ask his mom about it. I can see both sides of the issue so I didn’t get upset at that….yet. I asked her if she had his mom’s permission and she looked at me like I had grown horns. Okay…so I’m still giving her the benefit of the doubt…until she goes on to tell me she told this boy about oral sex and how to please his girlfriend and where to touch her and use his tongue…..there was more and sat there in such total shock that anyone with half a clue would have stopped talking and realized I was BEYOND appalled at this behavior. I am not a prude but I think it’s extremely inappropriate for a woman to tell another womans teenage son-or daughter even-about sex and especially about such details as how to please–well a 13 year old girl in this case!!! So call me what you want, I refuse to allow my son to go anywhere with her where I won’t be present. She’s already said stuff in front of him that pissed me off.

Mind you, we are not rude to her, what would be the point in that? We all have to live in this building together and our husband’s work together. There’s no need to be rude…unless circumstances call for it lol.

Yesterday she asked my son to go to the mailroom and store with her. He said he didn’t want to go, she made him come ask me. He knows he’s not allowed to go anywhere alone with her and he has no problem with that. His answer of NO should  have been enough and her sending him up here to ask me if he could go after he told her he didn’t want to pissed me off and made him uncomfortable. He told me he didn’t want to go but was following her directions. His exact words. Ugh I could smack her. My son said no. Period, that’s the end of the conversation as far as I’m concerned.

A few hours later our phone rings and the first thing I hear is “You really screwed the pooch today girl!”  Now anyone who knows me knows this is not how to start a conversation with me. First because screwing and pooch should never be in the same sentence and second because it’s a rude way to start talking to me LOL. She then goes on to tell me my son “concocted” (her word) this plan to buy me a Mother’s Day gift with his money and I messed it all up. WOAH!!! Guilt alert, guilt alert! Didn’t work. Two things were off with the whole conversation. One, my son is like his father….there’s no way the two of them can keep a secret like that lol. IF my son had said he wanted to get me something, when I said no he couldn’t go, he would have found everyway around Tuesday to let me know he needed to go for a reason he couldn’t tell me, but was a surprise, because there was a day coming up and I’m his mom and…..you see what I mean? lol My son would have made it clear in a see through way that he wanted to go buy something for me. Second thing off was to do with my son and his money–we have a family agreement that his money for now is for him. Seeing as the money he has now is money he got for his Birthday and for Easter. =o) J get’s money for holidays if he want’s it or does some odd chores that aren’t normal daily things so he does get money to spend on other’s if he likes of course. =) And this has always worked for us.

Anyway, there was more said and it was all geared towards my messing up MY Mother’s Day somehow and how I needed to realize my son cared about me…..which is where I had had more then enough and let her know I am WELL aware that my son cares for me and spending money on people is not how this family shows they love each other. The money thing seemed to be a big issue with her for some reason, and I got tired of hearing it. I got off the phone and anyone–even a thick headed person–would know I was pissed. Pissed that someone would question our family agreements, values or anything like that. Pissed that someone was telling me how to raise my son in a sneaky passive aggressive way. He’s a good boy, has normal kid issues, knows he’s loved, I guess my husband I did something right along the way…all is well with the world. =)

Now loving my son the way a mom does, when I got off the phone I wanted to be sure I didn’t actually dissapoint my son so I asked him if he wanted to go to the store for a reason, did he want to get something special and he looked at me like I was speaking another language and said “no, why?” Now you realize if he would have said yes I would have felt horrible for dissapointing my son and had some egg on my face for the other lol.

 

That should have been the end of it right? Wrong…later when my son brought the doggies outside this woman proceeded to tell my son about the phone conversation and how she must have pissed me off and how she was only teasing me blah, blah, blah..all in front of our new neighbor mind you. My son was so mad by the time he came up here and he asked me what was she talking about about Mother’s Day so I told him and he got that look your child get’s when you KNOW they aren’t lying and they are totally offended that anyone would even venture to believe they are? lolol

ACK!!! What a pain in the ass this person is! LOLOL She really defines the nosey, bitchy military wife stereo-type to a *T.*

For me, I’m just heavy on the bitchy part and I can live with that LOLOL.